Love is patient, is kind, love is not jealous, love does not boast, is not puffed up, not unseemly, seeks not its own interests, is not provoked, thinketh no evil; I Corinthians 13:4, 5.
Love in view of the world is selfish. Must have something to be able to give. It's quite carnal. Many say that after they marry, as if they were still single. Does not respect others and does everything to make you angry and hurt. That when you do not humiliate the other with lovers.
This distorted view that the world has to love is completely wrong. First we give without expecting anything in return, married people have to love and respect for each other and not be competing because marriage is the union and not a ring. This will only behind most headaches and makes the wedding more stressful for both.
Why does it happen discussions, competitions, not to speak with one another early in the marriage? Lack of humility. These things happen for lack of a simple dialogue or an apology. They are always competing, wanting him to apologize first, instead of taking the first step. And that's just wrong.
Marriage is made and formed by two people: you and him. Do not expose their problems to people you know who will not see you well with your husband. When experiencing problems in their marriage, rather than begin to discuss with her husband, bend your knees and pray to the Lord and ask Him wisdom. For everything has the correct time. Sometimes we put the wrong words at the wrong times, and instead of helping, disturbs.
If you can not talk today, leave for another day, with a cool head is better to talk, but think about the situation. Think what you would say and how he would react. So you keep a simple conversation becomes an endless headache.
In the next post will talk more about it.
Stay strong with God.